relational
therapy
Affirming of all partner(s) and
relationship structures
with a specialty of working with gay male couples.
Based in Kansas City, MO
love isn’t the only thing
relationships need.
Relationships aren’t just about love. They’re about attachment, safety, communication, and the histories each person brings into the space. Relational therapy creates room to slow things down, understand patterns, and explore what’s happening between you, bringing clarity to what the relationship needs in order to move forward.
Whether you’re navigating conflict, distance, transitions, or wanting to feel more connected, this work centers curiosity, accountability, and care.
Examples of
Relational Work
Not an exhaustive list.
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Many relationships don’t struggle because of what is being argued about, but how. Therapy focuses on understanding recurring communication cycles, emotional triggers, and repair attempts helping partners move out of blame and into clarity, accountability, and connection.
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Feeling distant, misunderstood, or emotionally alone can be deeply painful even in long-term, loving relationships. Relational therapy offers space to explore what’s created the distance and how partners can reconnect in ways that feel safe, mutual, and intentional.
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Betrayals, broken agreements, or repeated disappointments can shake the foundation of a relationship. Therapy supports slowing down these moments, making sense of what happened, and determining whether and how repair, boundaries, or rebuilding might be possible.
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Relationships are often impacted by external changes like grief, career shifts, illness, moves, identity changes, or family stress. Therapy helps partners navigate these transitions together, rather than feeling pulled apart by them.
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Early experiences often shape how we seek closeness, handle conflict, or protect ourselves in relationships. Therapy helps partners understand attachment dynamics and how these patterns show up between them with compassion rather than blame.
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Not all relationships follow traditional scripts. Therapy supports partners navigating nontraditional structures, changing agreements, or evolving definitions of commitment with respect for autonomy, consent, and mutual care.
Supporting
Gay Male Couples
I work closely with gay men who are dating, partnered, married, or just maintaining a form of long-term commitment. Men who want a space that understands the realities of loving another man in a world that hasn’t always made that easy.
Gay male relationships often carry unique dynamics shaped by patriarchal concepts of masculinity, emotional safety, visibility, and past experiences of rejection or shame. Many couples come in feeling deeply connected, yet stuck in patterns of conflict, emotional distance, or misalignment that are hard to name especially when both partners’ nervous systems learned to protect them from emotional pain, rejection, and abandonment.
This work supports couples who want to strengthen communication, navigate intimacy/sexuality and vulnerability, understand recurring patterns, and build connection that feels secure, mutual, and sustainable without needing to explain or justify their relationship.
HOW THERAPY
SUPPORTS RELATIONSHIPS
Relationships have a way of teaching you how to protect yourself.
When to speak up.
When to pull back.
When it feels safer to stay quiet than risk being misunderstood again.
Over time, you might notice the same dynamics showing up. Getting defensive faster than you want to. Shutting down. Overthinking every interaction. Wondering why connection feels harder than it “should,” even with people you care about.
That kind of constant adjusting takes a toll. It shows up in how you trust, how you communicate, and how safe it feels to be honest with the people in your life.
Therapy can be a place where those patterns finally get some attention. A place to slow things down, name what’s really happening, and understand where these reactions came from without blame or pressure to fix everything at once.
Your responses make sense.
And you don’t have to sort through them alone.
not everything that
is hard is ending.
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